PREPARING OURSELVES TO MOVE 4,000 MILES AWAY +tips we’ve tried to help us cope

the pros

Obviously this is a big change, but that doesn’t always mean it’s a bad thing. As my family and I prepare to move to Madrid, Spain next summer, these are the things going through our heads, trying to remember the life-changing experience that this is.

  • The experience that we will gain as we move to a foreign place is huge.
  • My sisters and I will be able to travel at such a young age and see things that most people won’t ever see or experience in their lifetime.
  • For me, if I don’t try this out now, I may never. I don’t want to miss such an amazing opportunity.
  • Social media and technology is so advanced.
    • Although phone calls aren’t as comforting as talking to people face-to-face, we are still going to be able to communicate with loved ones across the world.
  • We will be practicing Spanish daily and will most likely be fluent after awhile.
  • For me personally, I will be able to come back to the states if I find that Madrid is not a good fit for me.
  • We will meet many new people from Spain, and any other countries we explore while living in Europe.

the cons

  • Leaving friends and family.
    • My brother and his new wife just got married two months ago. It will be really hard to be away when they start a family of their own.
  • Leaving the town we were raised in.
  • Moving into a completely new culture. (Culture shock)
  • We have lots and lots of memories in this small town we call home.
    • As an Enneagram type 6, it’s hard for me to move on from good memories and to leave them behind. Looking through old pictures/videos is a hobby of mine, but it absolutely crushes me at the same time to know that we can never relive that moment.
  • Missing out on friend/family get-togethers.
    • I have major FOMO (fear of missing out). I have some theories of where it came from, but seeing the people I love spending quality time together (one of my top love languages), knowing I couldn’t join them even if I wanted, is honestly painful.
  • We won’t be able to spend holidays or big events with friends or family.
    • Thanksgiving isn’t even a thing is Spain !! 😦
  • Financial/emotional security.
    • Being so far away from family and friends, we can’t run to them when our emotional stability is at an all-time low. If I can’t find a job, I can’t go back to one of my high school employers to be able to pay the bills. Finding jobs is HARD in Spain.

tips to cope

  • Trust in Jesus.
    • This may seem simple, but is actually really hard to remember when lost in the weight of the world.
  • Pray. Pray. Pray.
    • Spending time talking to the Creator of the universe…there is nothing more powerful.
  • Remember why we said “YES” in the first place.
  • Research more about Madrid.
    • Finding cafes, landmarks, or other places we will likely visit when we get there. Getting ourselves excited!
  • Remember, this is such a great opportunity that we are so blessed to have.
  • Connect with someone that has previously moved to another country/culture.
    • Ask for some encouragement, share your thoughts. They could give some reassurance.

Change is hard. No matter who you are, I think that most everybody would agree that change is somewhat difficult. But even though it’s hard, you won’t ever be able to grow without it. Even though it can shake you to your core, make you break down mentally, emotionally, and even physically, it’s change that will help you become a better, more experienced individual. Through change and the support of Jesus Christ, we can change and grow physically, mentally, and emotionally.

WHAT NOT TO DO WHEN SHOPPING

One thing that I DON’T do when I shop is limit myself to my true size. Honestly, some pieces look better oversized. For example, I usually wear size S, however, the jacket shown below is size XXL. I honestly like the look of this size better than I would have if it was a size small. If you read my last post, you know about MY #1 RULE WHEN IT COMES TO SHOPPING. And thanks to that rule, I found this flippin’ awesome jacket! It was originally marked $29.99 at Target, but I ended up getting it for $14.99!! As my sister and I like to say, WHAT A STEAL! I’m so excited to use this jacket in the fall, as it’s light but also keeps me warm in the wind. As we walked around the flea market today, it got pretty chilly and sprinkled off and on. This jacket was perfect for a day like today because it was thin enough to carry around when I didn’t need it, but warm enough to keep me cozy during the cool weather. I can’t wait to use this as a frequent piece this autumn !!

MY LOVE FOR TRAVELING

Many people who know me know about my desire to travel the world. I am so blessed that I have been able to travel to multiple countries already, and there are so many more that I would love to experience! My love for traveling began when I was a kid and I heard about people taking missions trips to Africa to help care for those in need. The little 7 year old me was so amazed that there are people who travel to countries across the world to spread the love of God. I thought, “How amazing would that be?!” But I didn’t think that I would be one of those people who got an amazing opportunity like that. I thought that only certain people, who were specially chosen, could go on those trips. Luckily, I was wrong! When my dad became a Missions Pastor in 2011, my love for traveling grew. We have been able to make so many friends around the world and I have even been able to travel to their countries to see them! After traveling to Guatemala a few times with my family, and to Germany and Italy with my dad, I knew that I want to live in another country after high school. However, God has a plan for my life, so we will see what happens!

MY #1 RULE WHEN IT COMES TO SHOPPING

When it comes to shopping, I tend to get very excited. But honestly, who doesn’t?! Whether I’m out and about shopping in stores, or just shopping online, I always stick to one rule. I can’t pick out anything in the full-priced retail section, until I’ve looked through clearance! This routine has saved me soo much money! Honestly, it’s hard for me to shop sometimes because I don’t have tons of money to spend, but I do have a love for clothes. That being said, I’ve gotten very good at saving money and finding about 98% of my clothes for less than $20. One of my favorite things to do is digging through secondhand stores or the clearance rack at target to find super cute clothes or clothes that might have potential! In the picture below (with my adorable mother), I’m wearing pants that I got for $4.30 at Goodwill, Birkenstocks that I got for $24 at Shoe Show, and a shirt that I got a while ago from Old Navy (but sadly, I don’t remember the price). Needless to say, shopping and style can be cheap if you’re willing to look for it!

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